Editors Note: Where Did All The Time Go?

 

The day after we got home from the hospital after the birth of my first daughter, I remember feeling very overwhelmed. I wondered if we were adequately prepared to care for the delicate human we were now responsible for. I loved her immediately but I hated what pregnancy had done to my body and the tax on my sanity those early days of no sleep and constant crying. So I wished I could speed up the time. I wanted to get to the coos I had read start at 6 weeks and the smiles that will melt my heart at 3 months and the sleeping through the night at 4 months. Especially after that night at about two and half months when I was practically in tears because she wouldn’t go to sleep and I could hardly keep my eyes open.

Tomorrow,  my baby girl turns five. Really, where did all that time go?

So much is happening so fast. Each day is a new discovery of all the wonderful facets of her budding personality; I have no desire to speed any of this up.

In the quiet moments at the end of the day, after we have celebrated baby girl in all the ways she will appreciate, my husband and I will also celebrate the fact that the little delicate human we brought home five years ago has grown to be both so strong and so kind.

We could not be prouder!

 

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Ps: Thank you so much for your feedback this past week. We loved hearing both your kudos and your ideas. We look forward to your continued support and feedback as we implement some of those ideas!

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Editor’s Note: More To Womanhood

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Every year on my birthday, I make several resolutions for my next year. Today is no different; I have been reflecting all week on what promises i will make myself this time. To do this, I have been browsing through my thought journal for this year. Its nothing fancy, just a digital notepad I occasionally document thoughts that intrigue me. One particular one caught my eye and has now become the basis of this year’s promise to myself.

“Isn’t there more to your womanhood than catering to everyone’s needs?”

It is daring to think that the honorable self giving hallmark of womanhood falls short but it does.

We give others life and spend our lives nurturing those around us; navigating the needs of many different complicated relationships. Yet in the end, we forget to cater to own minds and bodies. We run our homes, boardrooms, soccer fields, PTAs, churches, towns, countries … we do it all and do it very well except, we forget to preserve our health and sanity and strength through loving self-care.

They are so many areas of neglect we so desperately need to consider such as what we eat, how much we sleep, what we affirm to ourselves, who we let in our lives, how much we pile on at a time, the list goes on and on.

As we go about the work of raising our beautiful girls, they will inevitably inherit the desire and capacity to love and care for the people around them. This is great; however, will they also inherit a love for self and a habit of self-care?

This birthday, my promise to myself is a healthy mind and body. I have chosen to be intentional about being my own caregiver over this next year and just as important, I have chosen to be intentional about teaching my daughters to care for themselves.

Will you join me?

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Editor’s Note: Thankful For You!

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Today as we take time to reflect on the goodness and fullness in our lives, particularly the people and things that matter most, we count you as one of our wonderful blessings.

Thank you for allowing us to support you in your parenting journey. Most importantly, thank you for the diversity of voice and thought you and your daughters bring to communities around the nation.

We wish you and your families a happy and safe thanksgiving!

Love,

Abi + Uto

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Editor’s Note: Not Just A Boy Thing

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I have worked in a male dominated industry for over 11 years. Over this period of time, I have gotten so used to being the only female in meetings and on teams that I hardly notice.Earlier this week when someone sent out a group email and addressed it to “Abi and Gentlemen”, I had to pause and chuckle to myself a little (ok maybe it was more like a snicker under my breath :)). In that moment, I felt some pride in being the disrupter of what could have been a discussion among just the “gentlemen”.

Women have been fighting for a long time for more representation at the top levels of leadership and while we have come a long way in taking on leadership and executive roles,  I still see few to no females in those leadership roles that I might aspire to.

Time Magazine recently asked women to write in to tell stories of personal gender barriers experiences and then published several in a feature called “Because I Was a Girl, I Was Told … “ All the stories were moving. Some I could personally relate to. However, the most impactful story were two where their experience with gender inequality came from their own parents.

In one story, a women was told by her father that “women needed a career only until they got married, and nursing and teaching were the only things girls could do” in an attempt to discourage her from pursuing a career as a forest ranger or physician.  Another story was from a woman who overheard her parents discussing whether it was appropriate to give a girl a chemistry set after she asked for it for her 9th birthday.

While we are quick to prepare our children for how brutal the world outside our homes can be, It is important to be very aware of how our well intentioned interactions inside the home impact our daughters as well. Every thing counts; the toys you buy, the colors of said toys (not everything has to be pink), the biases you correct (“no, that’s not just a boy thing”), the dreams you give her permission to have (“you can do anything you put your mind to”), the encouragement to explore ( “no, its too hard for you”), and most importantly the unconditional love you give.

Being a leader is not just a boy thing. Recent studies have shown that women-led companies perform three times better than other Fortune 1000 companies run by men.  The world desperately needs the leader you are raising; your love and support can help her realize how important her impact can be in any field she chooses!

 

 

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Editor’s Note: Ambitious Dreams & Courageous Realities

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It is not difficult to see how monumental this moment in time is for women’s history. One hundred years ago, we had no voice. On Tuesday, the nation almost elected her first woman president. Despite the politics (and the drama) of the election season. We should all feel so proud of the progress we have made.

Not only are we able to vote but our voices are too powerful and too loud to ignore. Our first major party candidate for president was undeniably qualified to hold the most important office in the land. She gave the boys a run for their money AND she won the popular vote.

We are not too far from that defining crack in the glass ceiling anymore. It is empowering to know that any one of us can and will rise to the occasion again soon. In the meantime,

  • We continue to fight to create a world where our daughters can have more ambitious dreams and live out more courageous realities.
  • We continue to teach our daughters the value of preparation, conviction and inspiration. Whenever we have been able to put a crack in that ceiling, these three are present.

Congratulations to Secretary Clinton for an Historic candidacy and to all the wonderful women that ran for other political offices this year from Carly Fiorina to Kamala Harris to Ilhan Omar.

We are proud of you Smart Girls!

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Editor’s Note: That Kind of Mom

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I distinctly remember the moment I learned we were having another girl. I was so happy. I had always felt girls needed sisters. Our little family of 4 couldn’t be more perfect. However as soon as we started to share the news with friends and family, that enthusiasm was quickly dampened by the numerous responses of “Oh congrats, maybe next time” and “That means you are going to try one more time!” 

I so hated the implication that my life was somehow incomplete without a male child. I hated that even before my little girl was fully formed, I was already defending who she was. 

Knowing that both my girls are being born and raised in a world that still has gender biases and inequality, I know I have to be the kind of mom that empowers my girls to live happy, impactful lives despite all that. 

Most likely, you are that kind of mom too. 

The influence mothers have in raising girls that are confident, competent and that have great character is highly underrated. Consequently, our goal with this platform is to elevate the role of the parent in raising empowered girls. For starters, we do this by summarizing the most productive parenting related conversations, resources and tools in a quick to read and easy to digest format delivered straight to your inbox weekly. 

Over time, we really hope to be a strong, meaningful, supportive community; to truly be that trusted partner that keeps you informed and provides support when you need it along your parenting journey. 

Enjoy our very first issue. I hope you continue this conversation by sending us your thoughts on parenting girls, your successes and challenges so far or send us a high five on our vision or tell us what you would love to see or just respond to say hi!  

I really can’t wait to get to hear from you!

Abi 

Editor, Raising Smart Girls

Ps: Know a friend or two who are raising smart girls as well? Invite them as well!

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